“BRIAN CATE” THANK YOU ! FOR EVERYTHING ! JAMIE LEE…………..More of my Journey to South Carolina


If you the reader, understands what I have been through in my life and career, you may possibly understand the intensity of what I am about to write.

Here is a Honorable man, who is going through the same intensity and problems in life, we all are persevering due to the Economy, so and so fourth……

Here is a man that taught me the True meaning of  “Shit & Shinola”  in my life. 

BRIAN SAID TO ME THAT, BEFORE I LEAVE AND GO OUT INTO THE WORLD, HE WOULD TEACH ME THIS!  AND NOW I AM READY TO OUT AS JAMIE LEE………..

He is a proud man, who even through his own trial & tribulations, opened the doors to his heart, home and family, to someone he didn’t even know.   ME…………..

His wife was very ill and at times on the cusps of death, and he still did many things for me.  He went out of his way, to have me call in to the Kinetic Radio show,  from home one day.   He then in the midst of his own, stress, and severe family problems, made it possible for me to come there in person and appear on the Kinetic Radio Show!

Basically every morning when he woke up, I was sitting out side on his patio, by myself.   He made Coffee, and invited me to have some. (By the way thank you Brian-You don’t know how bad I needed coffee, each morning)  .

Any way, he and I sat talking about, many aspects of life, which I believe inspired me, as well as I pray that some of my words, inspired him.

I HAVE TO TAKE A MOMENT TO EXPLAIN SOMETHING VERY IMPORTANT!

I am a Transsexual woman, who has survived the pain and suffering, trials and tribulations, of my transition.  Who is trying to find the meaning and and courage of self acceptance.  I must be honest that when I was driving to there home, I was scared.  I was scared of the unknown. I apparently was the first Transsexual their family has ever met in person. Actually I was a little terrified, of how they would receive and accept me………When I finally arrived at their home, my “radar” so to say, was operational.  Everyone I met, I searched for signs, of nonacceptance, of signs of feeling I was some kind of oddity!

Another Trans Person can relate to what I am saying.  I was looking for signs of disrespect, laughter, ridicule, during my whole stay with them.  NOT only, did I not experience any of that, what I experienced from this family was the total opposite!

This family treated me as a true woman, in an unfettered manner. They opened their doors and made me feel like I was part of their family.  You must understand that we were total strangers until then.  They made me feel truly like I was “A bag of chips and all that”   I truly in my wildest dreams didn’t know how to take such an open minded and kind family.  Their son was wonderful as well as their daughter.  Even a relative named Sarah was totally acceptable of me. It made me feel like I was thrown into a UTOPIA…………………To this whole family, and their inspiration along with acceptance, I curtsey to you!

Thank you ever so much……….Jamie Lee

CURTSEY

BACK TO BRIAN……..

One day half way through my visit, Brian and I were alone in the kitchen and he very compassionately said these words to me!

Jamie Lee, thank you for being here and inspiring my wife, to survive, to get out of bed, and live, to get back into her art and photography, and to help bring her back to me” 

OH MY GOD!  How does a person respond to a man that says that to you?  It can’t be answered by a mere “your welcome” Brian.  I feel this family learned a multitude of  things from me as well as they intensely inspired my own self-acceptance!

Another gift they gave to me was the day, that they teamed up on me, and said “Jamie” take off you wig!  You are what is underneath it.  Be FREE…………………….!  I DID!

The last thing that I find interesting, is that they all gave me permission, to post their family photos and names on my BLOG!

And show, what their integrity, and hearts, are about as a family,  showing the truest acceptance of diversity, acceptance and the Human Condition…………………….I AM HUMBLE

new Brian & jamie 2

The Cate Family photo

SO BRIAN THANK YOU!  FOR TEACHING ME THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN “SHIT AND SHINOLA” !!!!!!

AND MOST IMPORTANTLY!  THANK YOU FOR OPENING YOUR HOME TO ME  !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

One last thing I would like to add.   I pray that I did not disrespect, your home, family, children in any manner!  And if I did, I am truly sorry!

YOU ARE TRULY AN AMAZING PERSON…………………………………..

Thank you,

Jamie Lee…………………………………………………………………………………………………………………..

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KINETIC RADIO SHOW – FIRED UP – HOSTED BY THE AMAZING SHANNON MARCUS MC ALISTER! – FIRED UP – WEDNESDAY NIGHT 8-10 PM – NOVEMBER 14, 2012


 

The guest on the show, that night, will be the Beautiful, amazing, intelligent, wonderful, kind, compassionate, gorgeous, LGBT Advocate, Jamie Lee.   No applause necessary!

I will be on internet radio station Kinetic Hi Fi  ( http://www.kinetichifi.com/) Wednesday night November 14, 2012,  from 8-10 pm, talking about my Transition as a Transsexual woman.

I was invited as a guest, on the show that evening, and I am sure it will be well worth listening too.   This happens to be another huge opportunity, for the Transgendered Community to. get our voices out there!  to move forward, and achieve our FREEDOM.

Shannon Marcus Mc Alister!      This will be the first time, I will get to meet this amazing woman, in person.   However, I have come to learn that she is a very compassionate and open minded woman, from reading her stories on Facebook! and talking on her show a few months ago. I am honored that she now, has invited me to be a Guest.  We in the Transgendered Community need allies like this,  to help us gain our acceptance and freedom.

I am sure that there will be time for people to call in, and ask her questions or me.  I invite you to do so.

I want you to understand that  Jamie Lee’s Crystal Connection,  https://jamieleescrystalconnection.wordpress.com   was created for YOU!

It is a forum of education, personal stories of my life, and my own transition.  It is a forum for individuals to learn how to cope, with this lifestyle and in finding true acceptance.  It has up-dated news stories, educational videos and a lot more.  I ask you to visit my site and leave comments, make recommendations, and if you have a story submit it to me and I will post it for the World to see.  Remember my quote: DON’T LET ME DIE BEFORE YOU LET ME LIVE!

Another endeavor of mine is working with an amazing business man, Brian Cate, who has a clothing design site, and has the courage to include designs for the LGBT Community.  You can visit his site at http://www.lucidasylum.com/Collections/Lucid_Asylum

Or by clicking on the pink box that says PIN UP LIFE, on the Crystal Connection!

He specializes in the following and will produce any design that you choose.    It is a Special opportunity for the LGBT Community!  So please visit it and order something………………………..

LASTLY, I WISH THAT EACH AND EVERYONE OF YOU WILL LISTEN IN TO THE RADIO SHOW.  AND MOST OF ALL I WISH TO THANK EVERYONE WHO VISITS MY SITE AND BECOMES EDUCATED

VENI – VEDI – VECI !    WE CAME  –  WE SAW –  AND WE WILL!   CONQUER…………………………….AS TRANSGENDERED INDIVIDUALS.

JAMIE LEE

THE COURAGE TO ACCEPT ACCEPTANCE – HALF ASSED ACCEPTANCE !! By Jamie Lee


DON’T TELL ME YOU ACCEPT ME WHEN YOU DON’T!

BECAUSE YOU CAN’T BE PROUD OF ME AND TELL THE WORLD WHO I AM!

BECAUSE YOUR FRIENDS OR CO-WORKERS MIGHT DISRESPECT YOU!

AND BECAUSE MY LIFE EMBARRASSES YOU!

AND MAINLY BECAUSE YOU ARE AFRAID TO STAND PROUD AND ADMIT THAT I EXIST!!

A QUOTE FROM JAMIE LEE

DAMN YOU!      DON’T LET ME DIE!   BEFORE YOU LET ME LIVE!

YOU HOLD MY LIFE AND MY EXISTENCE IN YOUR HANDS!

READ THE FOLLOWING FACTS, AND THEN LOOK ME IN THE FACE AND TELL ME YOU ACCEPT ME

ENOUGH IS TRULY ENOUGH

JAMIE LEE

There is a basic principle in theology which states that faith or Scripture contains the answer to the deepest questions of the human heart. Faith is about life, my life. Faith is like x-raying my human existence. It helps me to live better, to be more human, to be more integrated.  Faith is to discover that there is only a oneness:

The Question

One of the deepest needs of the human heart is the need to be appreciated.  Every human being wants to be valued.  This is not to say that everybody wants to be told by others how wonderful he is.  No doubt there is that desire, too, but that is not fundamental.  We could say that every human being wants to be loved.  But even this admits of ambiguity.  There are as many varieties of love as there are species of flowers.  For some people, love is something passionate; for others, it is something romantic; for others, love is something merely sexual.  There is, however, a deeper love, a love of acceptance.  Every human being craves to be accepted, accepted for what he is.  Nothing in human life has such a lasting and fatal effect as the experience of not being completely accepted.  When I am not accepted, then something in me is broken.  A baby who is not welcome is ruined at the roots of his existence.  A student who does not feel accepted by his teacher will not learn.  A man who does not feel accepted by his colleagues on the job will suffer from ulcers, and be a nuisance at home.  Many of the life histories of prisoners reveal that somewhere along the way they went astray because there was no one who really accepted them.  Likewise, when a religious does not feel accepted by her community, she cannot be happy.  A life without acceptance is a life in which a most basic human need goes unfulfilled.

Acceptance means that the people with whom I live give me a feeling of self-respect, a feeling that I am worthwhile.  They are happy that I am who I am.  Acceptance means that I am welcome to be myself.  Acceptance means that though there is need for growth, I am not forced.  I do not have to be the person I am not!  Neither am I locked in by my past or present.  Rather I am given room to unfold, to outgrow the mistakes of the past.  In a way we can say that acceptance is an unveiling.  Every one of us is born with many potentialities.  But unless they are drawn out by the warm touch of anothers acceptance they will remain dormant.  Acceptance liberates everything that is in me.  Only when I am loved in that deep sense of complete acceptance can I become myself.  The love, the acceptance of other persons, makes me the unique person that I am meant to be.  When a person is appreciated for what he does, he is not unique; someone else can do the same work perhaps even better than he.  But when a person is loved for what he is, then he becomes a unique and irreplaceable personality.  So indeed, I need that acceptance in order to be myself.  When I am not accepted, I am a nobody.  I cannot come to fulfillment.  An accepted person is a happy person because he is opened up, because he can grow.

To accept a person does not mean that I deny his defects, that I gloss over them or try to explain them away.  Neither does acceptance mean to say that everything the person does is beautiful and fine.  Just the opposite is true.  When I deny the defects of the person, then I certainly do not accept him.  I have not

touched the depth of that person.  Only when I accept a person can I truly face his defects.

To express it in a negative way:  acceptance means that I never give a person the feeling that he doesn’t count.  Not to expect anything from a person is tantamount to killing him, making him sterile.  He cannot do anything.  It is said that children with rickets scratch lime from the walls.  People who are not accepted scratch acceptance from the walls.  And what are the symptoms?

  • boasting:  in a subtle or obvious way they provide themselves with the praise they want so badly.
  • rigidity:  a lack of acceptance causes a lack of security on the path of life and, a fortiori, lack of courage to risk one step to either side of the path.
  • inferiority complex:  this simply defines the above conditions.
  • masturbation or any other superficial joy:  deep down there is so much lacking that they endeavor to get whatever they can out of life in an easy way.
  • the desire to assert themselves, the frightful power to impose themselves, the excessive need for attention, the tendency to feel threatened, to exaggerate, to gossip, to suspect others:  these are other symptoms of lack of acceptance.

The really balanced person does not have to indulge in these measures.  Erik Erikson in his book, Young Man Luther, writes:
In (his) first relationship man learns something which most individuals who survive and remain sane can take for granted most of the time.  Only psychiatrists, priests and born philosophers know how sorely that something can be missed.  I have called his early treasure “basic trust;” it is the first psychosocial trait and the fundamental of all others.  Basic trust in mutuality is that original ‘optimism’ that assumption that ‘somebody is there,’ without which we cannot live.  In situations in which such basic trust cannot develop in early infancy because of a defect in the child or in the maternal environment, children die mentally.  They do not respond or learn; they do not assimilate their food and fail to defend themselves against infection, and often they die physically as well as mentally

THE END

A CHRISTMAS SPECIAL CHURCH EVENT- REVERAND MARCIA THOMPSON – DECEMBER 16TH, 2012


REVEREND MARCIA THOMPSON

AND THE CHURCH COUNCIL OF THE

ZION LUTHERAN CHURCH OF FLOURTOWN, PA
654 BETHLEHEM PIKE
215 836 4658

ARE OPENING THEIR DOORS AGAIN TO THE

GAY LESBIAN AND TRANSGENDERED COMMUNITY

On September 9th, 2012. Reverend Marcia Thompson opened their doors for the first time, to our GLBT Community.

AFTER THE SERVICE PEOPLE WERE INVITED TO SHARE  APPETIZERS IN THEIR  FELLOWSHIP ROOM

This event will be a special Christmas Service, for our Community

Maybe you haven’t been to church in sometime

DECEMBER 16TH, 2012

ZION LUTHERAN CHURCH OF FLOURTOWN, PA
654 BETHLEHEM PIKE
215 836 4658

IS HAVING A TIME OF WORSHIP
2PM

WE WANT TO WELCOME ALL MEMBERS
OF THE GLBT COMMUNITY

HOLY COMMUNION WILL BE OFFERED TO ALL

Contacts: Jamie Lee Transgender Advocate – jlcrystalconnection@gmail.com
Rev. Marcia Thompson 215- 836-4658

NOTE:

This Special Christmas Service is for Gay, Lesbian, Bi-Sexual, Transgendered, individuals, and their friends and family that accept and love them! Also for anyone who is supportive of us.

Photos of the Congregation, or individuals during this service is strictly prohibited, unless they, receive permission of the individual being photographed!

This Special service is an opportunity for individuals who, are not out of the closet yet!

to feel proud of themselves and stand tall for who they are!

ATTENDANCE IS STRICTLY CONFIDENTIAL

JAMIE LEE – GLBT ADVOCATE