This post was inspired by my own thoughts and feelings!
Which, inspired me, to realize, that it is time, to talk about my children!
MY WIFE, MY FAMILY & LOVED ONES
This is going to be one of the most intense posts I have written so far!
It will be a time line of sort!
Of people, places and things!
Because it is time to talk about things!
I have been holding off doing, because of my own fears!
Society is not first, and foremost in my life anymore!
My family, loved ones, friends are!
BUT! I must feel, that I can write freely, without censorship! and anyone misinterpreting my words!
If you do, please show me the, respect and courtesy, to ask me what I meant!
HOW DARE YOU ALLOW ME TO DIE ! WITHOUT ALLOWING ME TO LIVE
A quote from: Jamie Lee
From Childhood’s hour I have not been as others were – I have not seen as others saw – I could not bring my passions from a common spring! EDGAR ALLEN POE
LONELY, AFRAID, ANGRY, CONFUSED, SECLUDED, INCARCERATED, DEPRESSED, TORTURED, TRAUMATIZED, FRUSTRATED, MENTALLY AND EMOTIONALLY EXAUSTED, AND INCOMPLETE!
These are all real words to me! When was the last time that you felt them all at the same time?
SEXUALITY & GENDER: OUR SEXUALITY HAS TO BE WITHOUT FAULT! IT MUST FUNCTION IN STRICT CONFORMITY WITH ALL CUSTOMS & LAWS! NO MATTER HOW ILLOGICAL THEY ARE AND HOW MUCH HYPOCRICY THEY MAY GIVE RISE!
To be honest I am sick and tired, I am exhausted, I am fed up, I am pissed off, by constantly being pissed on. I am tired of the “Me Generation” I am tired of constantly trying to prove myself to everyone, but not to myself. Knock, Knock, Knocking on Heaven’s Door! I am tired of hatred, discrimination, racism, hatred of cultures and religion, intolerance and deception! I am weary of surviving. It seems we are constantly being controlled by the Educated Derelicts of our World
.My philosophy is:
” It’s better to be, tried by 12, than carried by 6″
I am dealing with constant P.T.S.D, from my 30 years of Law-enforcement and going through what I did, dealing with the Dredges Of Society! Standing on the Edge of the Abyss, to PROTECT YOU! After being spun, folded and mutated, by the very Society that shuns ME! I PLACED MY LIFE, IN DANGER, EVERY DAY, FOR THE SAME ASS HOLES, WHO WON’T ACCEPT ME AS, WHO I AM, AND WHO I WAS BORN TO BE !!!!!!!!
YOU SHOULD BE ASHAMED OF YOURSELF
YOU ARE PATHETIC
AND NOW ABOUT MY CHILDREN
I raised my children with the following expectations and Philosophy’s : Stand up for yourselves, and never be taken advantage of. Be the best you can be and anything! Failing is OK, get up and go again. Have a understanding of Morals, especially, your own! Do not be a Racist, sexist or hypocrite! Always have an open mind. Respect people, places and things, as you want to be respected. Live your life with integrity. Make your own, children proud to follow in your footsteps. DO NOT Discriminate! Never show intolerance. Always care about the feelings of others. Respect cultures, religion and humanistic values! If you don’t understand, educate your self before you make any decision! For the purpose of this post I am writing about my expectations. I was gifted and fortunate in life, to have a wife that believed in the same values and expectations.
Most importantly, we taught them about treating people compassionately, with their diversities, whether, it be handicaps, physical abnormalities, or skills, abilities and education ! Respect other peoples opinions and views……..!
And to be honest! I am pretty damn proud of them! Where they have gone, with their Careers, relationships, and goals! I couldn’t ask for anything more, at least at the time, I felt that way.
YOU MUST UNDERSTAND THAT THE INTENSITY, PAIN AND SUFFERING, ALONG WITH ACCEPTANCE, UNDERSTANDING AND TREATEMENT OF US AS TRANSSEXUALS, IS GENERATIONAL. WE AS OLDER TRANSEXXUALS, HAVE HAD TO GO THROUGH, MORE STRUGGLES TO TRANSITION, THEN THE YOUNGER, TRANSGENDERED COMMUNITY…………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………….!
They can transition into their lives! We have lived our lives, under constant fear, that we would lose the most precious things to us, our parents, our brothers & sisters, our Wives, our relationships, our significant others, our loved ones, our friends, and our children. You see, we must transition into a life that we have already built, through our own trials and tribulations, fears and expectations. And our own self-Acceptance. It is not easy, in fact it is a nightmare, which no typical human being could fathom, or understand.
Now, back to the topic of my children! Since the moment and time that I told my children that I was a transsexual, does anyone think that I was stupid enough not to understand the dynamics, that came along with that! First was their reaction, and acceptance of me. When I told each one of my two children the were in their late 20’s, my son and my daughter. They both embraced me at that moment, and said it was OK. It was one of the most beautiful moments of my life.
BUT, did they think for a moment, that I wasn’t aware, and conscious, concerning their ability’s and capabilities to understand? Of course I was, I had to live through all the dilemma of exposing myself to them. I knew, if I did, when they were children, that I could have changed their lives in so many ways. Tragic in many ways. Do they think I didn’t understand, especially back then, how they would have been ridiculed, laughed at, embarrassed, and humiliated by their friends and peers, knowing that their father was a Transsexual? I did! Ever so intensely and painfully. I did what any parent would do! Protect them! Maybe I was wrong, maybe I was right, but it was a choice. Plus, how could I expect them, or anyone else to understand, this shit back then, when I didn’t understand myself. My God what a dilemma! I felt like a mentally ill, freak of nature. Since childhood!
NOW MY CHILDREN ARE IN THEIR 30’s, MARRIED WITH CHILDREN. DECENT HUSBANDS AND WIFES, JOBS THAT HAVE PROFESSIONALISM AND INTEGRITY. THEY ARE LEARNING ABOUT THE TRIALS AND TRIBULATIONS OF LIFE, AND THE COLERATAL DAMAGE, OF SICK AND UNMORALISTIC SOCIETY, WHICH IS ALL WE HERE ABOUT , DISCRIMINATION, INTOLERANCE, AND DEATH OF INNOCENT CHILDREN ND ADULTS. THE FILTH AND THE DEGRIDATION, OF THE DREDGES OF SOCIETY, WHICH IS ON TV, AND PROMOTED FOR THE ENJOYMENT, OF SOME SORT OF PATHETIC AUDIENCE! RE: THE JERRY SPRINGER SHOW, THE USE OF INNOCENT CHILDREN , AND ALL THE REST, TO GAIN RATINGS, FOR MONETARY GAIN! AND ARE CAPABLE OF UTILIZING INNOCENT CHILDREN!
We all are reaching our toleration, of greedy and filthy Politicians, who only have their own hidden Agendas. We are in a war, with people and Cultures we don’t understand. We tend to feel that WE as Americans, are the only, life forms that deserve to exist. Economy sucks, gas prices suck, The bullshit that is fed to us by our own Government sucks. Gun control sucks, because there IS an easy answer, DO BACKGROUND CHECKS! When a Convicted Felon, Is found in possession, incarcerate him for 50 years. Or better yet, pry the gun from “HIS Cold Dead Hands” Don’t penalize the respectful, law abiding Citizens! Give more power to deal with Metal health, Disorders who are capable of hurting their selves, or especially others!!
Criminals have rights! VICTIMS HAVE NONE! Holy shit! Something is wrong with us!
GO, figure that all the Pharmaceutical Company’s have jumped aboard the band wagon to make money at the demise of people. There is a pill now available that cures any ailment, and at the same time can destroy, your liver, kidney’s, make you nauseous, dizzy, suicidal, and potentially a basket comatose case!
I love the one about Cialis, and Viagra! Guys, this IS you love potion of today. You no longer have to use you brain to get turned on, by a beautiful woman! You can just pop this magical, pill. That will put a mile on her face! Jesus Christ, you even have the propensity to have a, 4 hour erection!
I would have been happy in my life, to have one last for more that 15 minutes. Damn, 4 hours, I would have been floating down a river, with a smile on my face, yelling “OPEN THE DRAW BRIDGE”! This may be funny, but it is grossly pathetic……………..!
SO BACK TO MY CHILDREN! I THINK I HAVE GOTTEN THE POINT, ACROSS, OF WHAT, I WAS SAYING ABOVE ! AT LEAST I HOPE!
What should I expect of my Children, in my life right now? And, should I expect anything?
WHAT SHOULD I EXPECT, FROM MY CHILDREN ? I AT LEAST EXPECT THE FOLLOWING:
2. I expect that they, at least research on occasion, and learn about the dynamics of the Transgendered Community.
3. I expect that they begin to understand, what I have given up in my life, to give them ONE!
4. I expect that they, don’t ignore me and have a conversation once and awhile !
5. I expect that they at least try to begin to understand who I am, and the genetics, surrounding it.
6. I expect that they show courage.
7. I expect they don’t shun me……….
8. I expect that they don’t, demand a pity party!
(Along the way, I may edit this list on occasion, and add things}
I know that they are afraid of acknowledging me, because they are embarrassed and afraid of, what their, peers, co-workers, and others, will say to them! And I don’t expect them to allow me to rain on their Parade, either. But at least, love and respect me, for having the courage to do what I am doing.
I WILL NOT ACKNOWLEDGE THAT TELLING THEM ABOUT ME BEING TRANSSEXUAL, IS TOO STRESS FULL, FOR THEM! THEY ARE IN THEIR 30’S, THIS SURE ISN’T THE FIRST TIME, THEY HEARD ABOUT THE GAY, LESBIAN AND TRANSGENDERED PEOPLE……….HOWEVER, THIS IS THE FIRST TIME IT CAME CLOSE TO HOME ! AND BY THE WAY, IF IT IS TOTALLY TRUE THAT TRANSSEXUALITY, IS DUE TO GENETICS, THEN THEY HAD BETTER, COME TO TERMS WITH IT, FOR THEIR OWN CONCERNS, AS WELL AS THEIR CHILDREN’S !!